Live In Or Marriage Or...?


A time immemorial trend in India is, trending with the trend. Remember, the trend when it was a a routine matter of debate 'Which is better Love Marriage or Arrange Marriage'? Prior to that there was another trend too 'To Marry or To Not Marry at all' which still is in practice and perhaps this 'LIVE IN RELATIONSHIP' is being advocated or accepted mostly by those class of people who earlier were finding it comfortable to stay alone or to not marry at all. Somehow, it has emerged as a really trending option which almost has received a social approval now a days. 

A married couple holding hands together

Before dealing with the issue it seems quite essential to understand whether any more option is also available to choose from? No...Because no such option is in trend!!! Basically, it is more important to understand what exactly is the purpose behind any relationship? What's the need or expectation behind accepting to spend the life together? One can not bluntly advocate or suggest that which format of relationship is ideal since, every format has its own limitations and advantages. Opting for Live In Relationship, or Marriage or following any other format does not make any difference if the selection of life partner is wise and correct. While giving a serious thought on the incidences of failure of any relationship it is evident quite often that the initial decision of being together was either an immature decision or it was based upon some impractical expectations.       

Couple Walking Hand in Hand

This is not a matter of solicitation also. The Natural strength of any good relationship is dependent upon the rationality and genuineness of the expectations from each other, adaptability and sacrifices, and more importantly being complimentary for each other without having any lustful craving or cupidity.  Examples of success and failure are there for all such formats so, instead of following of any trend it would be more wise to consider to spend a bit of more time in order to ensure that - 
Yes! this is that very person with whom I may spend rest of my life...
It is a very serious and rational question for any relationship, that what is more important in making a long lasting and healthy relationship A Social legal bonding or a moral bonding or it is both? Nevertheless, instead of searching the seeds of happiness and love in a format like Live In or Marriage or Any other else...  
It is better to search and find it within the inner heart of thyself...
Remember, the saying from our ancient times
Miya Biwi Razi Toh Kya Karega Kazi?





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